Attachment-based Counselling (ABC) Level 4: working with couples – attachment rupture, betrayal and repair REGISTRATION CLOSED

This seminar is specifically for therapists working with couples who have suffered betrayal traumas (affairs or sexual addiction due to intimacy disorders or other forms of addiction – eg. gaming addiction) or for those whose clients are trying to make sense of a betrayal/disordered intimacy from an attachment perspective. Gordon Neufeld’s Six levels of attachment will be applied to an understanding of the role of healthy sexual encounter and the intimate partner attachment dance in order to understand what might have been missing and how repairs can occur. Myths around forgiveness and the journey of grief and recovery will also be addressed.  Ruth has trained in the Partners of Sexual Addicts Trauma Model (APSATS) which challenges the co-dependent understanding of a partner of sexual addicts and presents a healing model in line with PTSD healing. Ruth will weave together Neufeld’s understanding of how healthy attachment develops across the lifespan and the dynamics within intimate partner attachments with the APSATS model to present a holistic picture of healing for our clients who have suffered betrayal traumas.

Date: Nov 16th , 2019

Time: 9-4:30 (9:00 registration; event starts 9:30)

To attend this seminar it is compulsory that you have attended ABC Level 1 (or been granted an exemption if you have attended my workshops before and been in my BCouns classes), Level 2, 3.

Morning and Afternoon tea as well as a nutritious lunch provided by the local charity Eat My Lunch (who offer a free meal to a local underprivileged school child when we purchase a lunch package)

Ample parking available behind the church with the entrance on St Marks road Remuera.

Cancellation Policy:

Registration closes one month prior to event. In the case that not enough participants have registered then the organizer reserves the right to cancel the event and offer a full refund to those already registered.

If the participant cancels with one month notice then a full refund is offered (minus a $25 admin fee); with 3 weeks notice then a 50% refund is offered; with 2 weeks notice a 25% refund is offered. With less than one week notice, no refund will be given.

Ruth Lawson-McConnell (PhD Counselling Psychology) is a counsellor, trainer and clinical supervisor, who has trained and worked in the UK, Canada and New Zealand. She was born and grew up in the Amazon region of Brazil where her Scottish parents were missionaries for 36 years. Her areas of specialism include attachment-based counselling, neuro psychotherapy, working with partners of sex addicts and betrayal trauma. Ruth is a Professional Associate of the Neufeld Institute, having trained with Gordon Neufeld in Vancouver in the Developmental Attachment paradigm. She is a Parent Consultant on emotional and behavioural issues related to attachment dynamics in children/teens. She has published articles and book chapters, and has lectured in England, New Zealand and Australia; she is a popular conference speaker and workshop presenter. She lives in Auckland with her two adult daughters, a labradoodle and two cats.

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16 Nov 2019


9:00 registration- event from 9:30-4:30
All Day


$217 + GST


St Mark's Church, Remuera, Auckland
95 Remuera Road, Remuera, Auckland 1050, New Zealand


Ruth Lawson-McConnell
Ruth Lawson-McConnell

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  • Ruth McConnell
    11/08/2019 17:58

    This event is the final of a series of 4. Attendance at the other 3 events (ABC 1-3) is a pre-requisite. As part of a special deal, if you have attended ABC 1-3 you can attend ABC 4 for free. Please email me if you would like to take up this deal:

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