Attachment-based Counseling (ABC) Level 1: Introduction to the attachment-based developmental paradigm applied to therapy

In this seminar you will be introduced to Gordon Neufeld’s attachment-based developmental paradigm which is intuitive rather than based on the classical, diagnostic Attachment theory. You will learn how healthy relationships development when attachment hunger is satiated at  6 progressive levels of deepening attachment over the lifespan. You will be introduced to the three processes of maturation that lead to psychological maturation: Adaptation, Integration and Emergence. What does it mean to be an adaptive, integrated and emergent being and where does developmental stuckness show how up in our stories or our client’s stories? From these insights, instead of asking what is wrong with our clients, we can ask, what happened to them?Key questions will be addressed: can our clients be too attached? What leads to defensive detachment? How can our clients gain earned secure attachment, leading to psychological rest, first with us, the therapist, and then transferred to other significant relationships?

This seminar is a vital introduction for anyone new to the Neufeld Attachment-based paradigm. It is the first of a 3 part series, which explains sequentially the principles of Neufeld’s Attachment-based Developmental Paradigm. I apply these principles to healing attachment ruptures or deficits throughout the lifespan, in what I have termed Attachment-based Counselling (mainly with adults but it has huge application to working with children and youth). So in order for you to gain the most out of this training you will need to go through all the levels in sequential order as the material presumes you know foundational constructs before I apply it to specialist sub-groups of clients or specific therapeutic issues (i.e. depression in ABC 2 and anxiety in ABC 3).

Registration closes Feb 7th. if you have any dietary restrictions please email me to let me know when you register: :

This seminar is going to be video recorded so I am looking for a gracious audience to present – that is why I am offering this at a REDUCED RATE: NORMALLY IT COSTS $250 BUT DUE TO THE INCONVENIENCE OF FILMING I HAVE MADE A REDUCTION. STUDENTS GET A 50% REDUCTION. 

Morning and afternoon tea provided. Bring your own lunch and enjoy the courtyard seating or source your food from onsite cafe or local cafes – Little sisters on Central Park Drive, the Hangar bar or on Lincoln road.


Cancellation Policy:

If the participant cancels with one month notice then a full refund is offered (minus a $25 admin fee); with 3 weeks notice then a 50% refund is offered; with 2 weeks notice a 25% refund is offered. With less than one week notice, no refund will be given.

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Dr Ruth Lawson-McConnell (PhD Counselling Psychology) is a counsellor, trainer and clinical supervisor, who has trained and worked in the UK, Canada and New Zealand. She was born and grew up in the Amazon region of Brazil where her Scottish parents were missionaries for 36 years. Her areas of specialism include attachment-based counselling, neuro psychotherapy, working with partners of sex addicts and betrayal trauma. Ruth is a Professional Associate of the Neufeld Institute, having trained with Gordon Neufeld in Vancouver in the Developmental Attachment paradigm. She is a Parent Consultant on emotional and behavioural issues related to attachment dynamics in children/teens. She has published articles and book chapters, and has lectured in England, New Zealand and Australia; she is a popular conference speaker and workshop presenter. She lives in Red Beach, Auckland; She has two adult daughters and a labradoodle.

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Hourly Schedule

Day 1

9:00 (registration. Event starts at 9:30) - 4:00


15 Feb 2020


Registration starts at 9:00 am Event starts at 9:30
All Day


$200 + GST


Laidlaw College Auckland


Ruth Lawson-McConnell
Ruth Lawson-McConnell
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