Here are all the events coming up in the next few months:

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The Separation Complex: making sense of how separation impacts our children’s mental wellbeing.

April 8th, 2024 – 7-9 pm on Zoom

The Separation Complex is a term coined by Dr Gordon Neufeld to help us understand how separation is a huge threat to attachment, fueling our children’s alarm systems leading to attentional, behavioural and emotional problems in the short and long term. So how do we avoid this dilemma and keep our children closer helping them to come back to psychological rest?

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The Power of Connection 2

Attachment-Informed approaches to calming anxiety

Monday, 20 May 2024, 9:00-4:00 online seminar

You don’t need to look far to see a dramatic increase in anxiety over the past few years. As Gabor Mate has said: ‘safety is not the absence of threat but the presence of connection’. In this seminar we will examine the underlying dynamics behind anxiety, building on Gordon Neufeld’s Attachment-based developmental approach (presented in the first course Attachment Theory). Neufeld’s model of alarm will be presented, examining how anxiety impacts the body, the mind and relationships. The work of trauma theorists (Schore, Porges, Levine) as well as interpersonal neurobiologist, Seigel, will be integrated with the Neufeld material to provide a holistic approach to dealing with anxiety in our clients.

Learning outcomes of the course:

  1. Appraise the phenomenon of escalating anxiety in society from an attachment perspective.
  2. Understand the importance of physical and psychological rest for human flourishing.
  3. Assess how anxiety affects:
    a.     Our body: biological aspects, physiology, and chemistry of anxiety,
    b.     our mind: psychological (neuroscience and mental processes)
    c.      our feelings: emotional effects of alarm problems.
  4. Be able to work with clients to calm their anxiety and lead them to psychological rest.

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If you can’t make that date, then there is the option to purchase this course via Grow as an on-demand option:


working with emotions

Working with Emotions in Psychological Therapy: A 5 step model


May 27th 2024, 9:00-12:00 pm on zoom

As psychologists, it is our “bread-and-butter” to work with emotions in our clinical settings. However, that does not mean it is easy or that it comes naturally to us. In our academic training we may not have had much depth of teaching on this issue.

In this workshop working with intense emotions will be explored from an Attachment-based psychotherapeutic lens, which places primary importance on the therapeutic relationship for healing and co-regulating emotions that are too hard for the client to handle on their own. Neufeld’s 5 step model of working with emotions from an attachment-based development perspective will be presented as well as recent research from the affective sciences and emotion regulation theory. The topic of dealing with transference/counter transference in the therapeutic relationship will also be addressed as this is an area where we can be ‘blind sided’. Self-care strategies and mental hygiene tips will be offered to reduce burn-out, becoming ‘numbed out’ and suffer compassion fatigue due to prolonged exposure to client’s intense emotional responses.

Hosted by The New Zealand Psychological Society


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The Power of Connection 1: applying attachment theory to clinical practice.

Online course


Increasingly research from the neurosciences, primatology studies as well as psychological theories, highlights the need for human connection for us to flourish as human beings. Afterall, we are all creatures of attachment and when we are securely attached, we feel safe to explore the world and know where to run back to when things get too overwhelming for us. Classical Attachment theory, espoused by Bowlby in the 1950s and developed since then by many great researchers (Cassidy and Shaver (2008), Obegi and Berant (2009), Wallin (2007), Johnson (2019) reinforce the fact that human flourishing happens best when secure attachment (or at least good-enough attachment) is present. However, very few clinical researchers present the theory from an intuitive, non-pathologized, problem-saturated perspective. In this, the first of a series of online courses, Dr Ruth Lawson-McConnell outlines how healthy attachment develops and what are the optimal conditions for human thriving. This seminar is for counsellors, psychotherapists, psychologists, anyone working in mental health who wants to understand the relational foundations of mental health and wellbeing and the healing power of working with attachments.  

To purchase this online course (via Grow) click here: